Times have changed. I'm not weighing in to a gender debate, but we ladies have a lot on our plates. We're busy building a career, making a home, raising kids, nurturing our relationships with our friends and family, trying to fit in some exercise (or spending time feeling guilty about not doing any), dabbling in our hobbies, trying to contribute to our communities and fitting in some sleep (most of the time). As a general rule, we enjoy the juggle and relish in our many and varied different roles, but one casualty of the circus act has been the traditional construct of 'community'. Often we're too busy to really engage with the other families that live on our street, we've moved away from our parents and, as much as we'd love to help out, much of the voluntary work we once did (manning the canteen, working on community projects) is gradually being outsourced due to dwindling numbers of mums who are available to lend a hand. But we're resilient creatures. We find ways of making it work. And one of the ways we've managed to stay connected is through our social media networks. According to 'Reaching Empowered Women Through Social Media' released by Forrester in April 2009 (NB: Empowered women are women ages 25 to 54 who feel that the Internet helps them manage their family life):

"One-third of empowered women use social networking sites mainly for communication compared with 23% of all online adults. Nearly one-third (32%) of empowered women will actively go to friends’ pages on social networking sites to keep in touch, compared with only 21% of all online adults."

As women, we like to share and we yearn to be connected, so we have created new communities to fill the void. Social media mums are not desperate housewives. We're busy people looking to engage with our friends and families and meet new, like-minded people. For marketers, it is crucial to take heed of this. You're not a voice on TV in the background while we're doing the ironing and making dinner. Often, we're logging on to Facebook in the slivers of downtime we get during the day and tweeting while we're on the bus to and from work. We write posts on our blogs when the kids have gone to bed to share our experiences and promote conversation with our network. And we're doing this for one simple reason. To engage. If you want to promote your product to us, it must be relevant. Shout at us, and we'll regard you with disdain. In fact, it would be no different to someone approaching a group of women at a cafe at lunchtime and asking if they would like to see a demonstration of your new vacuum. Bah-bum. We're sooooo not interested. Here's a good example of effective marketing to social media mums. Finish Quantum recently ran a sponsored spot on the uber-popular social media mum Mia Freedman's (@miafreedman) blog, Mamamia. All they did was offer her readers a sample of their new product, but they did it by weighing in on a topic that has many social media mums buzzing (and furiously tweeting) at the moment - MasterChef. What was posted what nothing short of a well-written, press release that showed insight into the behaviour and interests of the audience. Mia's followers were musing over their messy kitchen, how they wash their dishes (if they're a ‘rinser’, or they simply dump the dirty dish in the machine and hit go), who will take out the MasterChef title... The most interesting thing though is that they were also were falling all over themselves to claim their sample. The key for marketers is to spend time to get to know their audience and to make your communication with that audience as relevant as possible. Participate. Join in. You never know, you might even have some fun. You will win the hearts of social media mums if you can enrich our online experience by helping us connect with like-minded people: provide platforms for us to share what we know, learn what we don't and give us ways to help us manage our busy lives. It's worth the time, patience and effort. Remember, more often than not, we're the ones buying the groceries! Simply... put our needs before yours, and you'll see results. Cheers, Sarah (@SassieqQ)

* Image sourced from: workitmom.com